One of the realest truths that your parents every told you when you were a kid is that life is not fair. This is brutally obvious when you encounter a child like Joaquin, when you meet a mother like Sara Aluffi.
A friend contacted me through social media to make me aware of a charity event being organized as a benefit to fund the research to find a cure for Duchenne’s disease, a form of Muscular Dystrophy. I contacted the organizer and agreed to get some photos of the event. I have a busy schedule, so I didn’t have much time to research in advance of the event, but I figured I would show up get a couple dozen great photos for them and call it a day.
Another truth that many of us have experienced is that there is no love fiercer than a mother’s. What I discovered on Sunday is that there may be a stronger love; a community’s love for a family.
When I showed up to the parking area I started to see how big this event was going to be. Entire fields were full of cars with parking attendants directing traffic to the few remaining spots. A shuttle took us up to the house where the party took place. I was completely blown away by the turnout. Extra Large was playing, people were dancing, drinks were flowing and the mood was high. I started to photograph guests and everyone was happy to pose for the camera wanting to give anything and everything they could to the event. This was a community showing love to the fullest.
I saw so many great people as I walked around and it had the feel of a huge happy family reunion. Kids were running wild, getting their faces painted, playing on a bounce house, drinking lemonade and the adults were eating BBQ and enjoying a few cold ones in the shade. It was as good as parties get.
As I walked around I kept asking if anyone had seen Joaquin. I figured that the day might be a little overwhelming for him, so I didn’t want to force anything, but I wanted to get a photo of him for his mom. Everyone I asked said they hadn’t seen him. At one point during the day, I stopped and looked at an educational poster describing the disease. It is a genetic disorder that makes muscles break down over time and causes problems with the heart. Without a cure this leads children with this condition to rely upon a wheelchair by the time they are teenagers and most don’t survive their mid-20s.
As I read this poster, my heart sunk. I didn’t know Sara before this event, but I had seen glimpses of how much work it was and it made me tired just seeing her stories on Instagram. As I realized what was fueling her passion I froze in my tracks. Life is not fair. I looked around at the amazing smiling people and now I saw their hearts behind their happiness. These were families and anyone who has a child they love more than life itself understands in the core of their being what this means. Life is not fair.
I stayed till the end of the party getting as many good photos as I could and finally took the shuttle back down to the parking lot. I asked on the way down, one final time, if anyone had seen Joaquin.
“Yeah I saw him. He was playing up by the bounce house.”
I had to go back. I took the shuttle back up and re-entered the party looking for Joaquin. I asked a woman who was organizing some paperwork from the day.
“He’s right there!”
She turned around and there he was on the dance floor getting his groove on. I walked up to him and asked if he wanted a picture. Pizza on his face and shirt, a tired smile on his face, he stopped, looked at me and said “cheese!” I snapped a few frames and left him to return to his blissful dance. Right there, looking into that beautiful boy’s face I had an epiphany. The party was overwhelming to me. There were so many people and so much energy that it was exhausting, and here was this sweet five year old wearing a plastic firefighter’s hat two stepping to a reggae song.
Life is not fair, but it’s also a great mystery. There’s so much we don’t know about it. I’ll tell you this, though, when you have a child you love it connects you to the entire history of the human race and when you meet a boy like Joaquin it can inspire you to believe in angels. Life is not fair, but it’s beautiful, and what we don’t know may save us.
10 thoughts on “What We Don’t Know”
Thank you so much for capturing this day! Life is not fair, yet love still abounds in the hearts of all the warriors that support Joaquin’s journey as well as his family’s. There were angels all over my property that day and we are still feeling the effects! Again—thank you and many blessings on you. Pictures tell a story no one else can. ❤️🌺
Thank you, Joyce. That was such an amazing day. The love people were expressing was powerful. Thanks so much for hosting the event. Angels all over, indeed!
This looks like it was an amazing event. Wish we could have been there. Love Mark and Sandi.
It really was. Thanks for your comment.
Thank you Jake! Amazing shots! I’m glad you were there! 🙏🏼❤️👌🏼
Thank you Mardi! Thanks so much for inviting me to be a part of this great event.
You are gifted to express all I felt by being there and reading your words helped me relive this inspiring memory. With gratitude, Sharon D
Thank you Sharon. I appreciate your kind words.
Jake! We are all blessed to call ourselves friends and to see our community stand with the Aluffi family as they face this head on. Your words brought many of us to tears. You’re so right! The love was so thick, it was tangible. Life isn’t fair, yet it’s purpose always refocuses us towards the love, hope and beauty. All of which were beyond plentiful this past weekend. The fact that you, a stranger to us, saw and felt our hearts is truly magical. Thank you for sharing!
Sara, thanks for your comments. Your feedback means a lot to me. It was a beautiful event and it was impossible to miss the love.